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Good manners and good food go a long way

Iโ€™m not comfortable writing this, and thatโ€™s why I have to write it. In the past three weeks, Iโ€™ve given three different people advice that goes against my belief in the value of courage. 

One of these people is a friend whose family pet was shot and killed in her driveway for no reason except that the young man who shot it had a gun and an opportunity. The other is a couple, also friends, who object to Sylvaโ€™s prominently displayed Confederate statue. In each separate conversation, I advised my friends to remain quiet because, as I told them, โ€œSpeaking out on these issues will change nothing, and you will only suffer if you try to change a culture.โ€ I do believe that the culture of Jackson County, though in so many ways rich and worth preserving, is still very much insular, blindly protective of those we consider โ€œour own,โ€ and equally blind to the continued harm being done by romanticizing and whitewashing a flawed past. I believe this, and yet I would give my friends the same advice today as I did a few weeks ago, and it is because they are not from here. 

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